Blog 9

I have been thinking about what I wanted to do my blog on this week. My favorite topic so far this semester has been motherhood. Mothorhood is also the biggest honor of my life! Like I said previously, I have four wonderful children. My biggest fear raising my children is messing up! I know that every parent messes up. I know that parents are not perfect. I also know that as a parent, I am the most important person in my young children's lives. I want what is best for my kids.

The big question is, "What is the best for my children?" That is a hard question for any parent to make. One of the things that my husband and I decided was best is that I stay at home with our children. It is important that our children are taken care of. For me, I do not believe that anyone can raise my children with the same amount of love that I can raise them with. I know that that sounds selfish, but daycares do not always provide love. I worked at a daycare. I worked with some that really cared about the children, but I also worked with those that thought that working there would just be an easy paycheck. Because of this, I am afraid to leave my children in a daycare. I feel better knowing that it is me teaching them life lessons. I feel better knowing that it is me talking with my children when they make a mistake. I feel better knowing that my husband and I are doing what is best for our children. We are sacrificing a paycheck for our children. A sacrifice that is well worth it.

Another fear that I have is am I teaching my children the right morals and values? I want the best for them. I want my daughters to grow up and be strong, yet loving women. I want my sons to be great men, but I also want them to be caring. I want all my children to be considerate of others feelings, but I do not want them to be walked on. Being a parent is scarey. There are so many things to think about while raising them. I am lucky that I was raised in a family that taught me all the things that I want to teach my children. I think that that makes a huge difference. That is why our kids are so important. Our kids are our future!

Blog 8

This assignment is my favorite assignment every week. It is were I can go to say what I feel. No one to judge me or interupt me. I can just type what is in my mind. Again this week, the readings were personal. This week we read about women's work inside the home and outside the home. I have experienced both in my life. They are both stressful. They both have long hours. They both provide good and bad days. What is the difference you ask. Well, the biggest difference I see is that with one, you get a paycheck! If you ask me, working in the home is much more rewarding than working outside the home. Yes, I hate that my husband is the only one that makes money. I on the other hand get to watch every minute of my young children's lives! I may not get a paycheck, but I get a hug when my son walks for the first time. I get to stand at the bus stop the first time that my son rides the bus. I get to take my daughters to their first day of school. What job out there gets a paycheck worth missing that once in a lifetime stuff? I do work alot of hours at home. Probably more than the average 27 hours. I make sure that everything is taken care of. The house is clean, dinner is made, shopping is done, calls are made, and most importantly the kids are completely taken care of! To me this is worth being at home with them. One day I will have a job outside the home. I will have more money in the bank because my husband and I will both be working. For now though, home is where I belong. Screw the stereotypes. How many chances do you get to raise your children? They are only young once. Sooner or later they will have their own kids. Then all I will have is a job outside the home.

Blog 7

This week in our readings, we read about "mothering". This is a subject that interests me because I am a mother. I think that being a mother is the best thing that will ever happen to me. I know that it is the most important thing that I will ever do. I know the readings say that little girls grow up with the expectation to be a mother and a wife. I do not feel like I grew up like that. I did grow up wanting to be a mother one day, but I did not feel like I had to. Same goes for marriage. I, as a mother, am expected to do certain things. I am expected to be good to my kids. I am expected to make sure they have food on the table and that they have a healthy life. There are many more expectations for a mother. All which I am happy to make sure are done. I am like other womaen though. Now that my children are getting older and starting to go into school one at a time, I want to find a career outside of the home. I want to work outside the home. I want to find a job that makes me as happy as being a mother. I am sure that there is nothing that will even come close, but I am sure that I can find something that makes me happy. I want my kids to grow up being proud of who their mother is. I want them all to know that you can work outside the home or you can work in your home. I want them to know that they are both admirable choices!

Blog 6

Tonight I want to talk about Britney Spears. She is on every channel tonight. It is a huge deal that the court ruled to have her kids taken away from her. I do think that she has been doing some things that are not good. I do think that she needs some help. Is the choice to take her babies completely away from her the right choice? I do not completey think so. She still needs them and they still need her. This is a perfect example of why we as women need to raise our children right. This is why we as mothers need to be strong! Britney needs a mother that is someone that she can look up to. A mother that steps in and helps her to make the right choices. Where are the women in her life. Why aren't they standing strong next to her to help her move in the right direction? Why aren't they stepping in and saying we are going to get you the help that you need so that you can go on to be there for your children? I will tell you what. She needs my mother to stand there next to her. She is the strongest woman I have ever met. I am the responsible, loving, nurturing mother that I am because of her. She was that way. I learned because she taught me by doing the right thing. I am proud to have her as someone tom look up to. If I was on drugs or drinking too much, she would have stepped in by now and gotten me help. She would not have left my side. If I was putting my kids in danger like Britney, my mom would have stuck her foot up my ass by now. The court would not have been able to take my kids, because she would have had them long ago. She would not stop there though. She would have stood strong by me and gotten me the help that I needed. She would not have let me give up. I would have succeeded because of her. Instead of the press saying so many bad things about her, they need to back off. Instead of her mother helping K-Fed take the kids, maybe she could be there for her daughter for once. Intervene and help her see where she is going wrong. This is why it is important for women to do what is right for their children. Stand by them! We are what shapes the future!!! Our children are little pieces of us.